On television programmes or in films, when two people meet, you get the impression that they instinctively know that they have found a special person, and that eternal bliss is around the corner. Unfortunately, in real life, it’s harder to work out whether a relationship has a future or not. February is valentine’s month, the month for love, the month for romance, the month for bold declarations and bold expressions of love! Even the cynics in our midst actually spend time thinking about love in February! But is every relationship really love? How can you tell whether or not it is love? It is easy to think that your partner is the one, but how can you know for sure? To find out if he or she is worth it, here are a few pointers:
It feels comfortable to be around him or her: You don’t feel like you need to edit your thoughts or be careful what you say around him or her. You can speak your mind without fear of rejection or disapproval.
You feel like he or she makes you a better person: He or she makes you feel intelligent, attractive and you become the best version of yourself you could possibly be! He or she encourages you to grow and improve, and they give you the support that allows you to get to the next level. He or she really believes in you and encourages you to be the best version of yourself.
You share your life with him or her: You tell him or her things that you wouldn’t tell anyone else. The desire to tell him or her intimate details of your life means you trust him or her. This is one of the major components of true love.
You share priorities and values: You might like vanilla ice cream and he or she likes strawberry, and that’s okay! But when it comes to fundamental beliefs, it great if the two of you are on the same page. Do you both value the same things like family, generosity or spirituality? If so, you are on the right track.
You can’t imagine life without him or her: No matter what happens in life, what problems you face, you know that you’ll want to face it with him or her by your side.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to make a choice of who you want to be with. Your criteria for the ideal man or woman should be based on what your personal needs are and your expectations of the future. Choose the person you think is a perfect match for you, someone with whom you feel comfortable sharing your life and your future. Don’t ignore the signs, if anything about him or her makes you uncomfortable, pay attention to it and make a wise decision. We all deserve to love and be loved!
Author: Agnes Hove Chiweshe
About the author
Agnes Hove Chiweshe is committed to inspiring and empowering people to live a life of health, wellness and creativity. She is the Chief Executive Officer of Asher Health (Pty) Ltd, a South African Health and Wellness and productivity management Solutions organization. She possesses a Master of Science (MSc) Degree in Strategic Management, a Business Management (BBA) Degree and a Diploma in Nursing. She has over 10 years Management Consulting experience specializing in Organizational Development, Strategic and Organisational Planning, IT/ Business alignment, Business Process Improvement, interpreting strategy, Employee Wellness and the management of Human Capital.