- Have not met family or friends
Everyone wants to show off his partner to the world especially when the relationship has endured a lot of glitches and passed the test of time. Please don’t say you are not introduced to his folks yet. Then your man is not ready for you. If he is planning to have a family with you, he should introduce you to his friends and family. At least that’s the first step to show that somebody is planning a future with you.
- He keeps saying he is not ready to commit
Ooh! surely he is not ready? How ready can a man be? Your lover is just pushing time with you and he is not even considering marriage or in simple terms, settling with you. You can’t keep a blind eye on that one. When someone asks for a date he is already planning to commit. So why not now? Your man is kind hearted, he can’t tell you that the relationship is not working.
- Talks about his ex
This is the worst and obvious sign you are on your own. Nobody can love when they are still living in the past. If your man talks about his ex-lover often or compares you to his ex-lover, he is not ready for you. Do not think about the future here, your man is not even considering you. Instead he should talk about you and the future.
- Have been together for years
If you have been together for a while and there are no family plans, then you are on your own. Nobody will be in a relationship for more than three years’ time and live without talking about the future. Solid plans about the future should be there by now. If you have no plans it means your man is comfortable with things as they are and he is not yet ready to marry.
- Single on social networks
In a relationship that two people plan to have a future together your man can’t be single on social networks. We all know people meet and date via cyber connections. Why is he single on Facebook, Mxit and Twitter, for example? You don’t have to force him to change his status, that’s the worst thing you can do. Just know that he is not ready to commit because he is still in the market for a desired lover.
- He speaks about trust
If a man is happy and satisfied with you he will not speak about trust issues. Only when he is not happy and is skeptical about you, he will talk about it often. This is an unpolluted sign your man is not considering you yet for the future. Both of you are simply not ready for each other. Trust is built and earned in the early stages of a relationship. Indeed, you can’t talk about trust when you should be talking about the future.
- He hates weddings
Any talk about weddings, he changes the subject. Any talk about attending a wedding, he tells you he is busy. Any talk about your future wedding, he tells you he hates weddings. This is the man who is in denial. He can’t see himself getting married just yet. The truth is, he is not ready for marriage. He might love you but he is not ready.
- Active single life
He is still acting like a teenage boy who doesn’t even know there is a future partner. If your man frequently goes out to bars and tours with old friends without your company, then he is not ready for you. At least you should know his whereabouts and daily plans.
- You break up often
Everything seems disjointed in the relationship. Any small issue you break up. When your lover wants his time out or moments alone, he is denying you. It is a process, the beginning of separation. He is just not sure because of how he loved you before and what you have been through as a couple. The truth is this relationship with break ups is dying and you can’t plan anything together. Unless it changes, he is not ready for you.
Author: Gesture Chidhanguro