The time it takes to plan the wedding till the big day should also be used to analyse if your lover is your soul mate, the one you want to wake up and see every day.
When it comes to love, you have to be sure. If your fiancé shows any of these five signs below, you have to reconsider your status. He might not be the right one for you.
- He is offensive to other people
Your lover may treat you like a princess but how does it compare to other people? If he is rude and offensive to other people, even those close to him then chances are he is pretending around you. If he says you have changed him, then the change would reflect in all aspects of his life, not just with you. On the contrary behaviour, he doesn’t need to call every female by sweet names or offer to do things for them, but he has to behave civil.
- You still don’t know some things about him
It’s not about knowing his primary school friends but you should always know the basic things. A real man who loves you should invite you into his life and be willing to share. You have a lifetime to get to know yourselves but if by the time you are engaged, you don’t know his middle name or where he lives, then those are red flags.
- He rushes to get married
Sometimes everything falls into place and seems perfect when you are in love. You could have known him for two days or even for a few months but if he asks you to marry him, you will say yes and all will be well in your heart. However, if it is you who is feeling he is in a hurry then that is already a sign you are not in tune with him. Maybe he wants to tie you down or maybe he is scared of being alone, slow things down to the pace you like and if he doesn’t agree, say bye.
- He is lazy
A lazy person, whether man or woman, is not a helpful person. If he has shown signs of laziness and no signs of changing, he will most likely be the same in your marriage. Both partners need to be willing to work to keep a relationship working. Sometimes it’s the big things like help financially and other times it’s the little things like cleaning. It’s not every situation where the thought counts, ask him to fix his laziness or you will end up being the partner who is always stressed.
- He has a habit of sneaking away
Everybody needs time to themselves and that is normal. However, your fiancé should be able to check in with you and let you know what he is doing at intervals. It’s your right to know what he is up to in case things go wrong. However, if you notice that once he is not with you, his whereabouts are unknown and when you ask him where he was, he changes the topic, then something suspicious is going on and it might be a habit he will drag into the marriage. It’s a break again.
Author: Gesture Chidhanguro