From first impressions to picking up the bill, don’t miss our six dating tips for men. Here are six things to keep in mind next time you are out on a date.
- Don’t forget your etiquettes
A little etiquette goes a long way. If she looks nice, tell her that. Maybe open the door as she walks through, or offer your arm as she steps down from the curb – but play it by ear and don’t go too overboard. Also, make sure you remember her eye colour and when you’re comfortable, maybe test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks – if she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.
- Confidence pays
Everyone’s nervous on a first date, but there’s nothing more attractive than a bit of self-confidence. When it comes to conversation, stay in your comfort zone by coming up with a few topics that you can talk about easily so you are not out of your depth too early. But it’s a delicate balance – no one wants to be the guy who bangs on about his comic book collection all night, or what a pro he is on the bench press. If in doubt, ask your date about themselves and go from there.
- Keep it casual
Drinks are fine for a first date. After all, no one wants to sit through the seven-course degustation with someone you have only just met. It’s perfectly ok to keep first or second dates to weeknights, but anything after the third outing together should be at the weekend. Otherwise, they are going to wonder what you are doing that’s so much more interesting than them. Or, worse, who.
- Be prepared
Your first date is a great opportunity to show her what you are made of. And trust us, first impressions count for a lot. If you look like you have just stepped out of bed, your date is going to think you don’t really care. Get your hair cut, maybe invest in a new outfit, and check your teeth and nails are looking presentable. Plan to arrive a little early, so you are not flustered when you walk in the door and you have got a bit of time to give yourself the quick once-over in the bathroom mirror.
- Get a second opinion
If you are a little clueless or just want to make sure you are on the right track, don’t be afraid to ask your friends for a few pointers. See what they think of the outfit you are planning to wear, or the venue you want to take your date to. It might mean you end up dodging the restaurant that gave your mate gastro last week, or that you avoid wearing that shirt all your friends hate. You know the one.
- Eyes in front
Remember, when you are on a date with someone, they should be the centre of attention. Ask them about themselves and pay attention to their answers. And don’t try to get a sneaky look at your watch or phone and don’t check other ladies. Yep, they see that, too.
Author: Gesture Chidhanguro